Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Couples counseling and marriage counseling require a commitment from both partners to enter into the process. You’ll both need to reveal yourself, untangle the expectations and projections that create conflict, and re-pattern unhealthy behaviors. Couples therapy offers a road map to forge a new image of yourself and your partnership.

Relationships are incredibly complex. They require work. Maintaining love, intimacy, and connection is an ongoing project and no couple is immune to difficulties. Love is not enough to bind a relationship together — especially in a world that changes so rapidly. Couples need resources to become resilient and skills to become emotionally intelligent so their relationship can grow and ultimately thrive.

My approach to couples therapy is to uncover the structure of conflict as well as the underlying attachment needs that are not being met. Then we’ll move into emotional skillfulness and mindfulness techniques that can help couples identify their emotional reactivity and behavioral patterns to diffuse conflict more easily. Once these skills are in place, we can focus our attention on meaningful repairs, attunement, and connection that create the foundation for problem-solving from a place of empathy and trust.

Common Issues in Couples & Marriage Therapy

• Deepening Emotional Intelligence & Attunement

• Working through patterns of mis-communication

• Perpetual conflict and power struggles

• Emotional withdrawal & stalemates

• Stress & Work/ Life Balance

• Trauma

• Infidelity & Betrayal

• Sexual Intimacy Issues & Desire Discrepancy

• Disagreements over values and priorities including: money, sex, parenting, and creating time for each other.

• Working through Codependency and Attachment Issues

• Premarital Counseling: Defining Commitment & Trust

• Discernment Therapy, Divorce Recovery & Conscious Uncoupling

• Mindfulness-based Ethical Non Monogamy

Whether you are considering the next level of commitment, are in a committed relationship or marriage, considering separation, or processing a separation or divorce, therapy can be deeply empowering and healing. I also treat same sex couples, family relationships, siblings, and business partnerships who are in need of fine tuning. 

You can gain a more expansive understanding of your relationship and a road map for resolving perpetual areas of conflict. Click on the button below to read more about frequently asked questions regarding couples therapy.

Online Relationship Coaching

Relationship coaching is a service for individual clients outside the state of California who need solution-focused, more goal-directed support. This is not intended to replace working with a licensed psychotherapist if you are struggling with mental illness. 

Online Relationship Coaching

Online relationship coaching offers couples support to individual clients outside the state of California who need solution-focused, more goal-directed support. This is not intended to replace working with a licensed psychotherapist if you are struggling with mental illness.

Psychedelic Integration

Psychedelic Integration is the process of incorporating insights, lessons, and new perspectives into your conscious awareness. It can lead to the union of fractured parts of the Self and healing of past experiences through clarity and narrative reframing. The expansiveness and immensity of a non-ordinary state experience may be difficult to make sense of after returning to normal reality. With guidance and support, psychedelic integration leads to insight, a new view of Self, and a capacity to let go of patterns that no longer serve. Integration can include many frameworks and perspectives.

Examples of intentions may involve taking more ownership of challenges, speaking your truth, or reconnecting with the parts of yourself that you may have turned away from in the past.

Once you have these experiences, integration is the process that turns your intentions into reality. It makes your insights tangible.

I have been MAPS trained and have had substantial experience in integration practices that can support a clients capacity to create meaning after a psychedelic experience. I also bring a Jungian and Depth Psychological perspective to integration work that can help clients deepen into their inner world.

Please note I do not condone, or support the use of illegal substanpces nor do I provide substances of any kind for treatment.

There can be significant legal and medical risks associated with casual use of psychedelics. These risks are amplified for people who are already experiencing mental health challenges.

I also acknowledge that people do sometimes choose to take risks of various kinds that are not medically advised or condoned by the medical establishment. My integration services offer a safe, non-judgmental, and confidential space to process non-ordinary states and the potential for personal transformation and understanding.

What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations in the moment without clinging to them. It is learning to be a nonjudgmental, compassionate, and curious observer of your own experience. 

Mindfulness doesn’t require us to change who we are, but rather, it’s a practice. It’s a way of moving through the world with kindness for ourselves by learning how to gently hold space with our thoughts, sensations, and emotions. 

Vipassana (or insight) meditation gives us a daily practice using just our breath to suspend judgment, tune into ourselves, and cultivate awareness about what’s happening in our internal experience. While mindfulness and meditation are not cure-alls for life’s ailments, it can 

give us a way to understand the why behind our thoughts and emotions. This can create an anchor that fosters wisdom, greater clarity, acceptance, calm, balance, and a sense of well-being, no matter what is happening around you.