It’s easy to fall in love. But staying in a meaningful committed relationship requires emotional skills most of us were never taught.

Couples & Marriage Therapy in Santa Monica

 

Relational Intelligence is a Skill

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Most of us fall under that umbrella. Love is not enough. It’s never enough. It’s just the beginning.

It can be especially difficult for people who grew up in families where healthy relationships either never existed or were in short supply.

When you get caught in the frustration of perpetual problems and gridlock, it can be profoundly helpful to bring in a guide that can offer you not only a fresh perspective, but someone who can illuminate the unconscious patterns at a play—and set a clear path forward.

My mission is to give you mindfulness based, practical tools and tangible insights for repairing and re-building resilient relationships. Developing emotional intelligence is central to creating the capacity for a strong, deeply attuned connection that can weather the problems that arise.

Often times we can mistake the authenticity of an intense emotional experience as an objective truth about ourselves or our relationship. Mindful awareness can help us learn how to be in conversation with those emotions. It can also give us the space to become curious about what habitual stories we are telling ourselves over and over again.

These are stories that keep us perpetually stuck and stories that keep us out of the present moment. Once we possess a new level of awareness, we can start to make different choices. Choices that are intentional and choices that have the power to repair and heal our relationships.

“We have to be mindful of the stories that we tell about ourselves and our relationships. What begins as a negative reaction in a moment of conflict or disconnection, can easily turn into a conviction and self-fulfilling prophecy.”

Learning how to gently slow down the process of our reactivity and work mindfully with our emotions can soften the hold of these narratives that keep us in a vice grip of suffering. It is the key that opens the door to possibility and healing.


Work with me

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Discover how therapy can help you acquire the skillfulness and self awareness to create meaningful change in your marriage and in your relationships.

  • Creating Intimacy & Attunement

  • Conflict Resolution & Emotional Regulation

  • Codependency & Self Esteem Issues

  • Infidelity, Trauma & Rebuilding Trust

  • Conscious Uncoupling & Break Up Recovery

  • Sexual Intimacy & Desire Discrepancy

  • Navigating the Unpredictable World of Dating

  • Mindfulness & Meditation Practice

  • Healing Attachment Injuries: Adult Children of Schizophrenics, Bi-polar, & Borderline Parents

  • Divorce & Discernment Counseling

  • Relationship Skills 101: Building the Basics for a Strong Foundation for your marriage or for your relationship


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I am a psychotherapist who helps people heal from dysfunctional relationships

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Schedule a free consultation. Take a first step.

Ready to move past the same recurring problems? Ready to get unstuck?


Founder of the Mindfulness Based Therapy Group Yale St. Therapy in Santa Monica and Co Founder of Evenflow Meditation.

 
 
 

Nationally recognized therapist, relationship expert, writer, mindfulness educator.