Relationship Coaching & Consultation

If you live outside the Los Angeles area, I offer one on one relationship coaching services by phone or Zoom.

Even though there may appear to be some overlap, Relationship Coaching is different from the deeper in-person work of psycho-therapy. I do not work with severe mental illness in this capacity such as major depression, OCD, or eating disorders etc. I will refer a client out to see a therapist in their local area to be properly treated should these issues arise. In those situations, coaching can be an adjunctive form of support for clients.

Remote relationship coaching can be very useful for working on a specific problem, solution focused work and creating a trajectory for improvement.

Mindfulness Education & Meditation

In addition to coaching, I also teach mindfulness and mediation as powerful tools to attune, listen and befriend ourselves as we work towards healing and resolution in conflict-laden relationships.

What is Mindfulness? Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present in the moment and aware of your thoughts, feelings and sensations without becoming overly identified with them. It is learning to be a non judgmental compassionate observer of your own experience. Mindfulness doesn’t require us to change who we are, but rather it’s a practice, it’s a way moving through the world where we can befriend ourselves and gain perspective that exists the constant flood of emotions and thoughts that vie for our attention.

Vipassana Meditation gives us a daily practice, using our breath, to suspend judgment, attune with ourselves and cultivate a sense of awareness about what’s happening in our internal experience. While mindfulness and meditation are not cure alls for ife’s ailments, it can give us a way to be in an ongoing conversation with ourselves and a create an anchor that can foster wisdom, greater clarity, acceptance, calm, balance and a sense of well being.

“When it comes right down to it, wherever you go, there you are. Whatever you wind up doing, that’s what you’ve wound up doing. Whatever you are thinking about right now, that’s what’s on your mind.”
— John Kabbat Zinn
 
 

Testimonials for Realtionship Coaching

“Shira helped me get through my divorce in one piece. I went from feeling completely powerless and angry to empowered, with a new sense of possibility. I didn’t realize that I was constantly telling myself a victim story about my marriage and my life—that kept me from being in the present and open to new relationships. The work we did together not only helped me become a better mother to my teen age son, a better co-parent with my ex, but a better friend to myself. And now I am finally in a healthy, committed relationship after decades of being in co-dependent dysfunctional ones.”

- Susan B.

“I am incredibly grateful for the work we’ve done with Shira. We were caught in an endless loop of fighting when we met. We were trapped. It felt like our differences were insurmountable. Shira was full of compassion but also strength and humor—and gave us incredible handles to see what was really happening in our relationship. Instead of snowballing into a fight every time we felt triggered, Shira showed us how to put the brakes on and to repair successfully.”

- Eric & Julia J.

“I met Shira at a pivotal time in my life and I'm so thankful I did. She is trustworthy, compassionate, an excellent listener and thoughtful with her words. The impact she's made on the way I live is profound. I'm happier, healthier, and have a fuller life thanks to her guidance.

- Brittany H.

“We had been to many therapists by the time we met Shira. I thought she was the last stop before divorce. Both my wife and I had been through decades of therapy between us. We didn’t think there was anything we didn’t already know about our situation and yet we couldn’t seem to change. Shira showed us how to use mindfulness in a very specific way. I learned how to listen to myself and how to listen to my wife from a place of real kindness and compassion.

-Liz G.